There are several reasons one can count or rather suppose why particular sad affairs such as breakups occur in our lives. Breakups occur because one fell out of love with the other party, trust issues, wrong timing, career and others. It happens for so many reasons with the same effect which is a broke romantic relationship.
The most awful part is that aside from the broken hearts one’s reputation or another will have a not so good taint on it most of the time. I do not like breakups personally but then again it is a stage in life wherein one has to go through so to learn and be strong about life.
The following are several logical reasoning one must know to keep your adjustment somewhat smooth sailing when under or getting over stage on this part of the life. The information can also serve as a nice precaution.
Generally people tend to become hostile towards the person who ended the relationship. They think that the person breaking up with them does not care about them anymore and is so glad to get rid of them out of their lives. You have to understand that breaking up is also hard for the person who’s ending the relationship. Not caring about you and ending a relationship is two different things. Some relationship just does not work anymore that it has to be ended.
Never do guilt trip or even plead for your partner not to leave you. Give them the liberty in choosing on whether they want to be with you or no. Using guilt as a weapon for you to keep your partner hampers you from having a very good and true relationship. And the worse part is when your partner will resent your pleading which will cost you more pain.
Relationships do fail. When your partner resents you do not take it too personally. It does not always mean that there is something wrong with you but it is just that there is something that is not working anymore. You are not the only person who had a failed relationship.
Feeling very much angry or crying out loud is normal for someone who just got dumped by someone they love. It is normal to feel hurt. It is being human. Nevertheless, be sure that you vent out your emotions through trusted friends and family. You do not want to have a bad reputation with people being known as someone who got dumped by this someone who acted so weird.
As cliché as it may sound you have to take one day at a time. Moving on is not an easy stage as you are already used at being with the person you love most of the time. There will be days that you will miss her and day that you will not. When emotional days arrive grabs a friend or merely keeps yourself busy that will make you feel fulfilled.
It is normal and seemingly a standard operating procedure to party and socialize after the break up. You might start getting news from people that your ex partner is getting along pretty well. Do not be so upset about it. His just probably conditioning herself as much as you do.
You always have the option to betray your former partner and tell all his deep dark secrets. And if the reason of the break up is because of someone else you are also free talk bad about him or her at their backs. Yet of course please mind that this sort of action that you will be portraying will have a bad effect on your reputation. Backstabbing someone will say something about your character and it will do you more harm than good.
Do not drown yourself from the seemingly never ending grudge towards your ex and a lot of If only ideas. Doing so will not only give you a very hard time moving on but also you will suffer more. No matter how bad someone wronged you they still do not deserve to be treated badly nor hold a grudge into. Take one day at a time.
You can’t tell what the future holds for you and your previous partner. You may find yourself separated from him or her but you will never know whether it is the two of you who will end up with each other in the future or no. It is better to end your so-called not working relationship when there is still something good or rather care coming from the party ending the union than none. It would be very bad when your previous partner is already left with no choice but to get rid of you for good.