Many couples in a relationship for a long period of time may already be thinking of becoming more serious. They might already be deciding on taking that next step and making that lifelong commitment to stay together forever. Before making that final decision, both partners need to think hard and well. Being together alone will not be reason enough to finally take that next step. In fact, there are several reasons that may indicate that you may need to postpone making such a commitment. Here are just some of them.
History of Cheating
Infidelity can be a deal breaker in many relationships. It can signify a break in trust. If your partner has a history of cheating before, you may need to think twice before you decide on making a serious commitment to live together. If your partner is remorseful and is willing to change, then you might need to see these sincere changes first before you need to decide.
Issues with Addiction
Sometimes, partners tend to forgive the other’s shortcomings because of love. But it can come at a price. There are certain issues that one partner still needs to consider deeply. One of them is issues about addiction. It can be gambling, drugs, alcohol or any other uncontrolled bad habits. But if a partner has these problems before, make sure that he or she is trying to change and make the effort to do so. Addiction is usually a problem that only the one suffering can effectively resolve. Partners can only end up with undue suffering if they get into a commitment with someone having addiction issues.
Major Life Events
Certain things that happen in life can have a drastic effect on a relationship. Whether it is a change of career opportunities, a death in the family, a major life move, or serious health issues, it is important to let things settle down first before taking that next step into the relationship. The high emotional points that come with major life events can have an effect on a relationship in many different ways. It is sometimes wise to set aside or postpone any serious relationship steps after there is a sense of normalcy in your partner’s life.