According to therapist Dr. Frank Pittman, "Infidelity is the most devastating crisis for a family," said Pittman, an Atlanta psychiatrist for more than four decades. "It creates an atmosphere of simmering anger, secrets and dishonesty."
Dr. Pittman also adds that all cheaters deeply regret cheating.
Some statistics, say cheating or infidelity is the cause of half of divorces. However, there are preventive steps that, according to Dr. Pittman, couples can take to avoid being unfaithful.
Stay faithful yourself
If you don’t want your spouse to cheat, then don’t cheat. If your spouse cheats on you, then what good will having an affair yourself (in revenge) do?
Do not marry a cheater
Just think, if your spouse left his/her ex-husband or ex-wife to be with you, then he/she can leave you for someone else.
It’s perfectly natural and human to be attracted to other people. The problem starts when you act on that attraction.
Don’t share your marital problems with co-workers
For one, it’s a private matter. Two, they might not want to hear about it. Three, there might be one lonely colleague with marital problems too. That might pull you two closer together.
Tell your spouse
If you are thinking of having an affair, don’t tell others. Tell your spouse. You can work on whatever issues are triggering you to be unfaithful. This might even prevent the affair.
Stay off the computer
If you are having an intimate online connection with some man/woman, pull the plug on your PC.
What you should do if you cheat
Be honest. You cheated. Take responsibility for your actions. More importantly, don’t blame your spouse for your infidelity.
It’s not true that once a cheater, always a cheater. You can change and own up to your mistakes, take responsibility for you actions. Take steps to moving forward faithfully such as going to therapy or counseling.
Stop the cycle. You don’t want your children grow up thinking that cheating is acceptable.