What’s the key to successful relationships? A couple relationships may be the most important in your life. It is often the main relationship in people’s lives; it is the basis of a family and this is the place where most of us learn about love, commitment, communication, negotiation and compromise.
Quality time – Without quality time, your relationship will not survive. Try to have one evening out per week, just the two of you. If you have children this is more difficult to arrange – but it’s not impossible. And do try when you have this ‘date’ to avoid talking about your offspring or your work.
Security – A good relationship is built on compromise and a great deal of give and take on both sides.
Independence – Keep your dependence in balance. Tell and show your partner how much you need him, but don’t strangle them, because you will make your partner feel trapped.
Communication – Women should explain, early in your relationship, exactly how to give you a fail-safe orgasm. Same thing for men, you should explain early in your relationship what do you prefer and how would you like your partner do it.
Support – Encourage your partner to listen to you, by showing appreciation when it does. Remember that most men aren’t mentally programmed for conversation in the way women are. They need more silence and internal time.
Do not control – When conflict occurs, you should open to learning about yourself and your partner and discover the deeper issues of the conflict. Don’t try to win, or at least not lose, through some form of controlling behavior. When you try to control you create even more conflict.
Take care of yourself – It’s very sad that couples often stop making an effort with how they look. A small thing can transform a routine into more of an occasion.