Actions speak louder than words. A guy would say one thing, but his body will tell you another. Body language is a subconscious way of giving himself away.
If you are confused and still trying to figure out whether or not a guy has the hots for you, then it is best to check out this list of positive and negative body language. If a guy does more good body signs than bad signs, then there is a possibility that he is attracted to you.
However, it is best to be careful in doing and interpreting body language. Not everyone is comfortable with intimate body movements like being too close or touching his arm. For instance, if you lean too close to a guy, he might think your are overly aggressive or invading his space. In case he becomes queasy about it, apologize and put an ample distance between the two of you. At least that would give him a signal that you are sincere and caring.
A guy’s body language can easily be misinterpreted. A guy who seems to appear to be really close to you may mean that he is just a friendly guy, or if he crosses his arms then it probably because he is shy.
Positive Body Language:
He has good eye contact – Looking at another guy’s eyes is one of the easiest ways to check if he is interested in you. If his eyes look friendly and show sincerity to you, then getting along with him won’t be much of a problem.
His legs are slightly apart – Like straight men, gay men tend to make themselves attractive to other guys through their body positions. Putting their legs slightly apart make them appear taller, hotter, and more attractive. If he does this to you, then he is probably trying to catch your attention. You could probably even take a little peek downward if he’s trying to show off his package.
He twirls his hair – You may think it’s a girl thing, but combing his hair (especially above the ear) using his fingers is a sign of attraction. If he tries to twirl your hair gently, then let him do so.
His smile is wide open – You cannot fake a good smile. If the guy smiles widely, even showing the laugh lines or crow’s feet if the guy’s a bit more mature, then he has genuine fascination or attraction for you. Some guys would even smile to show their dimples.
He would gently touch his face, cheeks, or lips – Sometimes, a guy would touch his face, especially his lips, to show interest and attraction. Some would even interpret this as a sexy way for the guy to imagine how good would you be if you kiss him on the lips.
He leans towards you – We all have our personal spaces, or how near other people should be to us, but we tend to disregard them when we are with our loved ones. If a guy leans towards you, he wants to be receptive to you or to what you’re saying. At the same time, he wants to indicate that you are welcome in his personal space and he hopes that you do the same.
He would touch you – A guy would try to touch your arm or shoulder to show his desire and attraction to you, and at the same time he tries to test how you would respond. If he touches your shoulder, try touching his waist or his shoulder. You could also try holding his hand that is touching your elbow.
He would roll-up his sleeves and unbutton his shirt or jacket – He begins to feel comfortable to you, or you can say that he is trying to let off some steam after seeing you.
Negative Body Language:
He has that piercing eye contact – If he stares at you and you feel creepy about it, then it would be best not to continue your date.
He tends to look away – This may show insincerity on his part, or probably he may just be shy. Some guys may follow certain cultures about not staring too much at another person while conversing.
He constantly looks around while your talking – This is a sure sign that is disinterested towards you, even to a point that he looks around for other hot guys or a means to end the date quickly.
He clenches his jaw – If he shuts his jaw tightly, and you can tell from his gnashing teeth or his pursed lips, then he is become impatient towards you and the date.
He nods way too much while your talking – He is probably not listening to what you are saying. However, you can also say that he may have a short attention span. You can gauge it by asking him about his thoughts.
He crosses his arms or legs – Crossing arms is a sign of being defensive. This simply means that he is not yet open towards you. But that doesn’t necessarily mean that he doesn’t like you. Maybe he wouldn’t cross his arm after several dates.
He would shove his hands in his pockets – Like crossing arms, this is also a sign of being defensive. However, it can also mean that he is not interested about the date.
His hand would clasp the other elbow while smoking – Another sign of being defensive, and also another sign of disinterest. However, if he looks up while smoking then he is definitely bored on the date.
He firmly puts his finger on his chin or lips – Doing so is an indication that he is evaluating or criticizing you in his thoughts.
He puts his chin on his hand – If he leans his chin on his hand as if he is attending Business Ethics class, then he is totally bored either with your or with the date.
He slouches – Not trying to bear a good body position simply means that he is not trying to be attractive to you.
He puts out a thin, forced smile – As said before, smiling cannot be faked. Even if he smiles at you, as long as it is insincere, his smile would look thin and forced.
He tends to shift the weight on his legs – This shows that he is uncertain on how he would feel for you. It can also mean that he is simple nervous about talking to you.
He would drums the table using his fingers – He is simply disinterested with the the date and with what you are saying.
He would rub the back of his neck – If he shows moves like this then it means the guy is tired. He could either be tired from the work that he had before the date, or he could be tired because of the date.
He would clasp his thumbs around imaginary suspenders – This movement usually complement when he would brag about something. It is best to check if his boastfulness has some “weight” in it and not just “air.”
He constantly plays with his lighter or pen – He could either be bored or nervous about the date. Try asking him about his interests to loosen him up.