Building gay relationships takes patience, which unfortunately is not easy to learn in life. It’s known that gay relationships mature at a faster rate, even more than those relationships between straight couples. Nonetheless, one thing common between heterosexual and homosexual relationships is the time it takes to find the right partner.
Don’t just jump into the love pool once you spot a hot guy at the gym, or you meet some cutie on the Net, or you find your blind date a hottie. Take your time getting to know him more. Never ever panic if he doesn’t call you on a daily basis or if you two aren’t spending much time together after a week of romance. If you guys hit it off, chances are he is into you as much as you are into him, but any potential relationship would be much better off if you take things slow.
If you wish not to rush your relationship, it is best to have a sense on how your partner wants his relationship to be handled. He may suddenly become too clingy after that one moment together, then try to tell him to set a certain schedule on when you two should be together. It’s not because you are trying to avoid the opportunity of spending more time with him, but rather because you would want to keep that relationship burning as both of your hearts grow fonder on each absence.
There would also be some situations when your guy would suddenly become unusually silent after you spend the night together. Try talking to him to spark a conversation. Any topic will do, as long as you don’t ask him why he is not giving you the attention that he used to give since you are probably not the reason for it. Try giving him subtle physical contacts like stroking his hair or an intimate arm lock. If he remains cold, ask him what his problem is. In case he says that he’s ironically fine, then just leave it at that. Maybe he would share it to you one of these days.
Spending activities together should be balanced during this early phase. Make sure that you have your “alone time” and your “together time” in check. Your activities together vary according to each other’s lifestyles. You may probably share a fave activity like roller blading, or you could even learn each other’s unique hobbies. For instance, play some video games with him while you teach him how to tap dance.
First impressions are great, you can only get to know a person well after spending ample time with them. And in the end, he may turn out not to be the person you thought he was. However, he might just be the man of your dreams. Only time will tell.