First Date Mistakes for Lesbians

As with many first dates, you always want to make it as perfect as possible.  But if you are uninformed, your date may end up awkward.  Here are some of the first date mistakes lesbians should avoid.

Giving out too much information

Of course you want to tell her more about yourself, but learn to control the flow of information on the first date, or even the first month of dating together.  Eventually, as the two of you get along, she would want to hear about your family or probably your ex-husband.  However, remember to keep your very personal details private.

Answering the cell phone

If your phone rings on the first date, you may be inclined to answer it.  Don’t.  Your date may take it the wrong way, that you are not focusing your attention on her.  It is best to turn off the cell phone and keep it in your pocket.

Talking too much about past relationships

Saying you have had exes and how long you were together is fine, but not when you keep on blabbing how much of a skank she was or how much you were in love with her.  It was part of the past, get over with it.  Your date is supposed to be about building anew romantic relationship, not about covering your past heartaches.

Getting drunk

Know your alcohol limit.  You do not want to appear a total jerk as you "accidentally" vomit in front of her after five rounds of drinks, or having her drive you home.  Save yourself from the embarrassment.

Taking her to a place where your friends are

The aim about first dates is to get to know her, and it is more comfortable to do this in a place where you do not see your friend making a face at you from across the room, interrupting your conversation, or even making a critique at how bad is your date’s dress.  Go somewhere both of you feel relaxed, but where you can discuss with each other in private.

Getting over-sentimental

Sometimes your conversations may get so deep and serious that you may get carried away.  Please do not drone over and over about topics that depresse you.  Keep your conversations light and fun.  If she appears to be turned off by your topic, change it.

Planning a really long date

You may have watched on television that featured blind dates that lasted the whole day learning how to salsa or playing billiards, then capping the night with a dip at the hot tub.  In reality, first dates are supposed to be short and simple.  Take her out for coffee, dessert, or a simple dinner.  If things do not go well on your first date, at least you do not have to endure the whole day for it.  However, if you get along fine, you want to save some activities for your following dates.

Having high expectations

First dates are just that, first dates.  Do not get carried away into thinking about moving in together or adopting children.  Simply focus on getting to know her better.

Lying into leaving

If you realize your first date is not going well and you want to leave, just say to her that it was nice meeting her and excuse yourself.  Do not go into great lengths like pretending that your friend was involved in an accident and you need to visit her immediately.  Also, never ask for a second date if you do not intend of following through.

Being rude

Show up on your first date on time.  Be nice to her and to anyone you encounter.  Keep showing your best side to your date, even if you do not intend to see her again.  Because even if the two of you would not end up together, she may have a friend you may get interested in.


One comment

  1. One idea for a first date would be a daytime date-that’s not so emotionally charged. Enjoyed your article:)

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