While the divorce rate in the United States has been declining slowly since the 1970s, divorce remains fairly common in the country.
In fact, about 50% of first marriages and 70% second marriages end in divorce. The median length for an American marriage is 11 years with around 90% of all divorce cases being settled out of court.
There are four methods to end a marriage: arbitration, negotiation, litigation, and mediation. In recent years, mediation has become a popular way in dealing with divorce proceedings. This article gives information about how mediation on divorce works.
What is divorce mediation?
Mediation on divorce has different meanings to different people. In this method, the divorcing couple would sit down in a room with a neutral mediator.
The mediator would help them work through the issues they need to resolve so they can get through their divorce. Mediation in divorce is confidential and flexible, giving the married couple a way to settle their conflict in a way that helps both of them work together as parents or move on with their lives after the divorce.
What is a mediator?
A mediator is a neutral and independent negotiator who talks to both parties and works for the best interest of each. This neutrality means that the mediator cannot give advice to the husband or the wife, and also cannot act as a lawyer for each party.
What he or she can do, however, is to highlight in open session to the husband and wife things that they should know about what they are trying to accomplish. This free exchange of information frees them up to negotiate and arrive at a decision in confidence. Since both spouses work with the same information base, it usually takes them less time to come to a resolution that is best to both of them.
How is mediation on divorce a good alternative to the traditional methods?
Divorce mediation is a good alternative to the traditional methods of ending a marriage in that the process does not involve two contending lawyers sending demanding and damaging letters to each other.
Mediation is also less expensive, a lot quicker, less aggressive, and therefore less scandalous. The last two points are especially important if they have children.
In most cases, mediation results in drawing the two parties together into a fair, practical, and sensible agreement that is for their best interests.
Will mediation be suitable for you?
Mediation helps if you are in one of these situations: considering separation or divorce, still living with your spouse but are planning to part ways, are already separated or divorced, or have any conflict over parenting arrangements.