Past relationships should be left where they are- in the past. People who keep reliving past relationships may fall into the trap of not being able to move on. This can seriously harm or do a lot of damage to current or future relationships. Although past relationships may give you fond memories of how happy you once were, it should not be used as an excuse why you can’t establish new relationships with other people.
People should have to learn how to leave a past relationship behind and move on. The past is something that you can no longer change. You should use past relationships to strengthen and reinforce your current one. But in no way should you try to compare a past relationship or try to bring it back or even relive it. You must learn to let go and move on. Try to keep in mind the lessons learned and be wiser not to make the same mistakes again.
The best way to learn to let go of a past relationship is by telling yourself that it is over. Trying to pine for hope that the past can still be rebuilt will lead you no where but further despair and frustration. Once a past relationship has ended, make sure that you put a period on it and let it go. It may not be easy, but you should be determined enough to do so if ever you wish to establish another relationship with someone.
Past relationships may leave some objects that might remind you of what once was. It is better if you try to keep these objects well hidden if you do not wish to dispose of them. Try to gather the items that might remind you of a past relationship and try to place it in a separate box and label it as so. You will have better chances of leaving behind a past relationship if you have gotten rid of the objects around you that might remind you of it.
Leaving a past relationship can take time. There might still be wounds that need to heal. Time should be given for healing and for the pain to subside. During this time of healing, it is wise not to jump right into another relationship. Instead, try to give it a break by keeping busy with other things such as work or doing your hobbies. Give yourself some time to enjoy time alone or with friends and family. This will not only help you fully heal the damage done by a soured relationship in the past but also make you ready to go into another relationship with a better perspective.
A soured relationship in the past is not something that you should be a burden to you. People go through them all of the time. You are not alone with the pains and the hurt that you may have suffered. But the suffering should only be temporary. You should learn to let go and leave it behind. Don’t try to let it bother you for the rest of your life. Learning to let go and move on will open for you new doors towards establishing a better relationship with someone else in the future.