Getting engaged is definitely an amazing event anyone can experience. Both of you are beginning to embark on a journey towards matrimony, but at the same time realizing the overwhelming process of planning a wedding. Of course, who doesn’t want a spectacular, grandiose, almost-like-a-celebrity wedding?
So to put things in order, let us help you in providing a step-by-step guide in putting up a wedding.
Enjoy your engagement – You can kiss each other a thousand times if you have too! Stare at the engagement ring and marvel at its brilliance and beauty. Once you get over it, take time to write down or make a mental picture about the details of your engagement. Take pictures of yourself with the engagement ring (you’ll be sharing it with friends, and you could also use it as part of your wedding video).
Tell your parents – It is best to inform both of your parents about your engagement before your friends do. If either one of you has severed ties with the parent, you could at least try. Ideally, you should tell them in person (usually the bride’s parent first before the groom’s) so they could see your happiness up close, and at the same time for them to have the opportunity to look at the engagement ring. Once you tell the folks, share the news with a few close friends-those who are most likely become best man or bride of honor, or definite attendants in your wedding.
Write a journal – If you are not into the habit of writing a journal, then it’s time to do so. There are a thousand moments that you do not want to forget from this day on, as well as some frustrating times that you would need to vent out (not necessarily about your partner). Not only writing a journal during the wedding preparation keeps away the stress, it would also become a cherished possession for the rest of your life. If you are the tech savvy type, you could also write your journal by creating a blog.
Plan an engagement announcement – This is the time when everyone else should know about your engagement, and you could do it in different ways. You could either hold an engagement party or just a simple toast over dinner. You could also have your engagement announced in your local newspaper, mailed to your family friends, or even laid out on a personal wedding website.
Set the date – This is where the most important decisions about your wedding begins. Not only will it be the first question everyone will ask you, you would be surprised how difficult it would be to make any progress on planning your wedding if you do not have a wedding date in the first place.
Set the wedding’s tone – Decide on how you want your wedding done. Do you want a church wedding, a garden wedding, or a beach wedding? Would it a formal or casual affair? What theme would your wedding have if you want any? If your partner is of a different religion, consider having a secular wedding or look for a way to mix the two religions together in your wedding.
Set the budget – Create a wedding budget worksheet. Look at your finances and figure out how much you already have in savings, and how much you can save each month. Talk to your respective parents if they would like to contribute to the wedding budget, or what specific things they like to pay for. Also, decide if you would feel comfortable going into debt, although it is best to avoid shooting up your budget as much as possible. Remember that most married couple argue about money, not the lack of love. However, if you are brave enough, open a new credit card that you would solely use for the wedding. It is best to apply for a credit card that provides incentives such as airline tickets and rebates as you swipe more. This makes tracking your wedding expenses much easier and would even help you pay for your honeymoon. Just make sure to pay it off in full every month.
Choose your attendants – Your wedding attendants do a lot more than just standing next to you on the wedding day. You have to get them involved as well. Although some couples prefer not to have any attendants at all aside from family and close friends, especially on a casual event, most choose between 2 to 12 members of the bridal party. Consider the responsibilities of bridesmaids and groomsmen before making your final choices. If they live nearby, it is best to ask them in person, although talking to them on the phone is fine especially for those who live far from your area.
Look for venues – There are two venues that you should seek for your wedding: first for the actual ritual, the other being the place of reception. Some prefer having their weddings and receptions at the single venue, but those who opted for a church wedding would have to look for a separate location for the fun part of the celebration. Many venues are booked a year in advanced, so the earlier you start looking, the more likely you are to get the time, date, and cost that you have planned for.
Get support – Successful weddings are not planned on the couple’s own decisions. They get all the help that they need, from professional wedding planners or trusted friends who have planned their own weddings. You could also visit online forums and interact with other engaged or married couples (this is especially helpful in dealing with your relationship once you become married). Download online checklists for free to help you stay on top of all of your important tasks. You could also buy a wedding planning book, or search for related printouts over at the Net.