Your best friend is probably, well, the best and most important person in your life right now. Where else can you find someone you can tell absolutely everything to and not be judged, someone who’s always there, someone who always understands. Someone who can be whatever you need him or her to be.
However, the road to "friendship forever" is not as smooth as your silky hair. In fact, it’s really quite bumpy and rocky.
There are a few reasons why best-friendship is not always sugar, spice and everything nice.
Changing and drifting apart
When you were kids, you enjoy the same things: the same toys, the same building blocks in school, even the same crush. Growing up, both of you start to explore and enjoy other things. The new things you like may not be liked by your best friend. Likewise, you might not like the new thing he or she is into now. One or both of you may be dating and have for more time for your crushes and far less time for each other.
The good thing is that, drifting apart does not necessarily mean parting. Give each other some space to grow. You will both be made richer by your (different) experiences, and what’s more you’ll have plenty of stories, new knowledge and new things to share with your best friend.
Also, when you finally get to hangout again, try to get into what your best friend is into nowadays. That way you will again some things you can do together.
If this growing and experiencing new things phase is making you feel left out, try talking to your best friend about it in a non-accusatory way. That way you’ll both be in the same page and can now find a solution to this problem together.
If you’re too shy to talk, try writing a meaningful letter. Give yourself a couple of days then read it again. This way, you will know how you really feel about the situation.
Arguments and disagreements
You and your best friend are not the same person, thus you will have clashing opinions about some things. The question is, how do you handle situations like this? If you have opposing opinions about small things, then just let it go and a get a move on.
One thing you should keep in mind is that, no matter what you and your best friend disagree about, you can have clashing opinions without putting each other down. And even if you know you will never see eye to eye, look at things from the other’s point of view and respect your friend’s opinion.
In the end, it all boils down to respect. Even if you and your best friend start to branch out and enjoy new things, and even if you have fights and arguments, your respect for each other will make you understand each other and keep you from destroying your friendship.