A relationship needs to be a two-way street- both partners have to learn how to give and take. One reason why some relationships tend to be one-sided is because one partner may not be effective in trying to communicate what he or she wants. This can lead to frustration that can also result in feeling unfulfilled in the relationship. Learning how to communicate your wants effectively to your partner is important. Here are some tips that can help.
Know what you really want in the relationship.
Some people fail in getting what they want out of the relationship is simply because they do not have a clear idea of what those wants are. Some people know that there is something they want in the relationship. But the problem is that they somehow cannot get it across to their partners. It is important for couples to encourage each other and find out what it is they expect out of the relationship in terms of what each other wants. This can help each partner become more aware and build the relationship the right way.
Look at the big picture and set real-life examples.
If you already have a good idea of what you want, try to get it across to your partner in a way that will help him or her see your want to be desired, appreciated, loved and valued. It should not just simply be about wanting a new car, a new house or a vacation. And to help make your partner understand better, you can cite examples, even the smallest actions, that can help realize those wants.
Be ready to propose solutions.
There are certain issues about feeling wanted that may be more serious than others. Some of them may easily become problems that both partners need to resolve. And to help out, try to propose what you think will help solve the issues at hand. Be ready to air them out to your partner before you even begin to talk on the matter.
Avoid monopolizing the conversation.
In times when you are discussing these issues with your partner, make sure that both of you have equal opportunities to speak each other’s minds. Try not to focus only on your wants. You may also need to hear out what your partner has to share about his or her side. This way, you can both work together in order to come up with mutual solutions on how both of you can get what you want out of the relationship and be happy about it.