Successful relationships between two people tend to grow better in time. A positive progression is evident the longer people stay together and know each other better. But this does not always come without problems and conflicts along the way. How couples learn to work with these issues together will determine if their relationship will last long or it will end up a failure.
Over the course of many relationships, people tend to value certain lessons that will help them move on to other relationships and make sure that they do it the right way. These lessons borne out of past mistakes help make people wiser and better at handling their future relationships. Here are some of the important relationship lessons you need to know right now without having to go through the same pain that others did to learn about them.
Do not put any relationship above yourself.
It is true that you need to value your relationship. But you should always remember that putting your relationship above yourself and what you want out of life can be a recipe for relationship destruction. People who do this tend to sacrifice a lot of things that they want to do in life for the sake of the relationship. Sometimes, they end up feeling bitter and defeated when the relationship does not work no matter how hard they try. Such sacrifices need not be needed if you do not put the relationship more priority than what you wish to get out of life. The latter can give you a sense of fulfillment that relationships cannot.
Actions speak louder than words.
In terms of relationships, you can better determine if it is worth your time based on what your partner does, not what he or she says. Before starting a serious relationship, make sure that what your partner says always stay true to what he or she does. When a partner says that he or she cares for you but always tends to neglect spending quality time with you, then there is something wrong in the relationship equation. Make sure that someone really means what he or she says by looking at his or her actions.
Do not give up friends or family for your relationship.
This can be a sacrifice that tend to go wrong and haunt you. Abandoning the people who care for you first for the sake of a relationship with one person is not always a good deal. Some people just tend to value a relationship so high that they are prepared to give up friendship or even family for it. But once the relationships fails, they end up having no one to turn to. Always remember that no relationship is worth the love and care you get from true friends and family.
There is no such thing as a perfect match.
We all have an idea of a perfect relationship. It is based on what we think we want. Sometimes we tend to create too perfect a match that it is no longer that feasible to find such a partner in the real world. We focus on such perfection when looking for a partner that we neglect other less than perfect candidates. After years and years of searching for that perfect one without much success, some people become increasingly desperate and end up settling for what is out there, which does not always have a happy ending.
The next time you try to search for a partner, make sure that you are not looking for the most perfect or ideal candidate. Be aware that all people have their good and bad sides. When you do find someone with some of the ideals you are looking for, expect certain not-so-ideal traits or flaws as well. The relationship will work if you learn to accept and live with each other’s flaws and appreciate each other’s ideal traits.