For a relationship to really work, you have to identify what boundaries you want to set up so that you don’t lose yourself in your relationships. Exercising your rights means setting up boundaries to establish a healthy relationship.
Establish a good sense of time management
Don’t give all of your time over to the establishment and maintenance of your relationships with your relationship partners.
You cannot afford to give away precious time to your relationships which needs to be spent in the necessary activities which insure that you are not lost or swallowed up in them.
Budget your money
Don’t spend sums of money just to maintain a relationships. You need to be clear that your money will not be used to rescue or save your partners from fiscal irresponsibility.
You need to set limits as to how long you will fund your relationship partners who are out of work before the funding is pulled. You will need to maintain a budget so that you do not over spend and get yourself into unreasonable debt.
You need to set limits
Set limits for the use of the properties you own. If you own a business or have a supervisory position on your job you need to set limits on how much your partners can become involved in your work.
You will need to set limits as to how involved you will allow your partners to become in your individual recovery and spiritual renewal support group activities.
You need to be clear with your partners
Be clear on how much of your internal resources you are willing to share or give away to establish or maintain the relationships.
You need to be clear with yourself that your skills and abilities are commodities which others pay for and that you do not have to give them away for free just to keep partners in relationships.
You need to set limits on how much you will give before you will stop giving of yourself.
Recognize the emotional hooks
Regognize the emational hooks which keep you stuck in your relationships. You will need to develop a sense of emotional detachment so as not to get hooked and drowned in an unhealthy enmeshment in relationships.
You will need to develop emotional limits so that you will be able to figure out where you begin and end and where your relationship partners begin and end.