In this day and age, relationships seem to have a shorter life span. You often hear about relationships failing within a span of one to five years, sometimes just only months. Rarely do you now hear about relationships that span decades. A variety factors may be attributed to this. Most of them are usually always in the control of both partners.
Because of this trend of shorter relationship life spans, couples who want to stay together longer need to work doubly hard. It requires more effort and teamwork for couples to buck the trend and stay in a relationship for life. Here are some tips that will help.
Invest into the relationship.
The only way to keep a relationship last is if you try to invest time and effort into it. Spend time with your spouse in any way you can. Set up regular dates and romantic get-togethers. Spontaneous dates are even more than welcome. Try to do your best to keep up the interest and excitement in the relationship. It can be a tall order, but it can be done.
Be “happy” more than being “right” all the time.
Some relationships get into trouble because couples always get into battle trying to prove who is right and who is wrong. Many conflicts start and linger on just because of this. To make a relationship last, it is sometimes better to prefer to be happy than to be always right. Of course, disagreements between couples exist. But it is not always worth fighting for. Learn how to disregard those petty disagreements and not let them affect your relationship. Choose to be happy with your partner instead by agreeing with them on some things.
Focus on the positive.
Relationships start with two people finding something they like with each other. In the same way, relationships last when people try to focus on what they like from their partners. Over the course of the relationship, couples may forget about this and begin to highlight the many things they begin to dislike from their spouse or partner. It slowly sows the seeds of hate and contempt toward each other, eventually causing the relationship to fail. If you wish to keep your relationship going, never forget about the things that you liked about your spouse in the first place.
Listen to and understand your partner more.
Some people think that they listen well. More often than not, they don’t. Some people think that they understand their better half when in fact they know little. This can be a surprise for many people. They realize that they do not fully know their partner yet even after many years together. One main reason is that they did not really listen. You can learn more about your spouse by making your best effort to listen to what they say. Try to see things from his or her perspective. This way, you will be able to understand your partner more from a better perspective.