Before you start panicking whether there’s a warning sign in your forehead indicating that you might be in an abusive relationship, it’s important to note how a relationship can be abusive anyway.
Abuse can sometimes be mistaken for intense feelings of caring or concern. It can even seem flattering. However, excessive jealousy and controlling behavior are not signs of affection at all. Love involves respect and trust; it doesn’t mean constantly worrying about the possible end of the relationship. Abuse can be physical, emotional, or sexual.
The first step in getting out of an abusive relationship is to realize that you have the right to be treated with respect and not be physically or emotionally harmed by another person.
Listed below are the signs of an abusive relationship:
- Your partner is extremely jealous, but the abuser could say that jealousy is a sign of love.
- Controlling behavior or Possessive. When he/she is always keeping track of you and your activities.
- Tries to control you by being bossy, by giving you orders all the time, making all the decisions and not caring or taking your opinions seriously.
- Unpredictable mood swings. S/He gets upset for no reason.
- Alcohol and drug use. S/He gets violent after using either of the two and may pressure their dates to use the substances as well.
- Explosive temper and sometimes lashes out at partner, yell or call names.
- Isolates you from friends and family in need of more attention for himself/herself.
- Shows hypersensitivity and uses force during an argument.
- Abusers frequently force you to have sex or intimidate him/her so that he/she is afraid to say no.
- Blames others for his problems or feelings.
- Has a history of failed relationships and blames others for all the failures.
- Threatens to hurt or kill him/herself if the partner threatens to break up.
- Broken promises to change their behavior.
- Victim starts isolating him/herself from the important things in life to keep the partner happy.
- You are sometimes afraid of your partner.
- You are often apologizing to friends and families of your partner’s behavior.