Everybody deserves to love and be loved, including people with behavior problems like attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD). Its symptoms include above-than-normal levels of inattention, hyperactivity, and implusivity. People afflicted with ADHD are usually easily distracted, become bored quickly, very talkative, and very impatient.
However, like everybody else, people with ADHD are very self-conscious when it comes to dating. Not only they would have to try pleasing their dates, they also need to keep their behavior in check. For ADHD adults, dating is an opportunity to improve one’s communication, social, and relationship skills.
Sandy Maynard of ADDitude magazine provides some helpful tips for people with ADHD in having a great date both online and offline.
Keep your dating profile short – It is easy to write about yourself when describing yourself in a dating website. However, it is better to keep it short. Put a brief summary about what you like to do and a shorter description about your dislikes.
Friends can help – If you have difficulty discussing about yourself, ask some friends on how they would describe you. Put their feedback on your profile, starting with “My friends would describe me as…”
It is OK to be shy – If you are really shy, say you are so. After all, you are not the only one and some people actually find it attractive.
Make a smooth transition from online to face-to-face dating – If your online date wants to meet you in the flesh, suggest it would be better if you meet through a webcam first. It would lessen your stress when you finally meet face-to-face.
You do not have to know everything about your date – Admit to your date that you have read his or her profile, but you did not do as much homework as you could have. If you want to know more about your date, ask about it.
Prepare a list of questions – Dating conversations can get awkward at first, so you have to make a list of questions you want to ask. It makes the date go smoothly while you maintain focus on the date itself.
If the date is not going well, relax – Do not worry about your date going bad. There will be more dates to come. Just relax and breathe.