Online Dating: Only for the Desperate?

online datingThese days dating is not anymore a boy-meets-girl thing set up by friends. Or a boy and a girl who met through common friends. No. today we have dating games on TV, speed dating, and of course "meeting" online.

Despite the increasing level of acceptance, relationships formed via these channels, particularly the latter, are still viewed as odd, and somewhat desperate.

The common notion is that these people lack the social skills needed to meet and interact with someone in ‘actuality’ and are desperate enough to resort to online dating. True, but not in all cases. Shyness and desperation are natural human traits, not traits that are common only to "geeks" as some of these people are labeled.

It’s also perfectly natural for us humans to look for romance and cyberspace is a place which provides opportunities for such human interaction.

Online dating, as with anything, has its advantages and disadvantages.

Advantages of online dating

One of the advantages of online is that you get to know a lot of information about people. You get to know their interests, educational background, line of work, etc. you can even view their pictures. This means you will have some idea, ahead of time, if you and a certain person are compatible. It also means you can prepare for, say dates and meet-ups.

Disadvantages of online dating

On the downside, some people tend to post dishonest and misleading information. They may also use old pictures or photos of somebody else altogether. They also lie about their civil status, their age, etc.

Online dating safety

Be very cautious about giving too much information about yourself and take note of the questions people ask you. For instance, if they ask about how much you make in a month and if you rent or own your house and ask for your address even before you decide to meet up, they just might be interested in your money.

If they talk too much about sex, they are either sex addicts or just after sex and not a relationship. If, on the other hand, they dodge questions about themselves such as where they went to school, then they’re probably one of those dishonest and misleading people.

There are sites you can visit to do a bit of "CI" on your prospective date, pal or partner. Check This site allows you to search criminal background, even spouses living in the same residence.

If you do find someone with whom you think you have a great connection with, don’t be shy. Say you met online. Or if you are still a bit shy about being a bit of a "geek", just say we met at this or that restaurant after chatting online. After all, you did meet there, right?


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