Single moms still have the right to find romance in their lives. Just because they failed in a relationship doesn’t mean that they are already banned for life to look for another one. Being a single mom doesn’t mean that she is already excluded from the dating scene.
On the contrary, a single mom has every right to date again and, if fortunate enough, find a partner that she can share life with. But there are just some things that single moms should think about before going out on a date.
Being a single mom may add up a different dynamic to how dating should be perceived. First of all, a single mom planning a date or looking for someone to start a romantic relationship with no longer has only herself to think of. There is always the kid or kids who will always come into the picture. It may not be easy for single moms to date and find new relationships because they think that having kids with the relationship may become a burden. It does not have to be that way.
A single mom deciding to date again should have to ease their kids into the plan. Explaining to the kids your plans on dating again and why you may need to will help make things clearer for your children to understand. This should be done in a gradual manner and not an instant and sudden announcement. Kids may not take such sudden changes easily and may even build some resentment between the child and the parent.
Now that you have explained to your kid or kids that you are dating, it is now time to develop the proper mindset. One of the big mistakes that single moms make when dating is looking at a date as a potential parent for their child. One good tip for single moms going on their first date: look at your date to see if you like him personally. That should be the first step. Single moms should not look at their dates as potential parents the instant they meet them.
Feelings for one another is the first thing to take care of. Single moms should try to learn more about their dates on a person to person level first to see if they like them enough. On the first date, conversation should not center on the kids as much as trying to know each other better on a more personal level. Doing that would only put more pressure on a man and can ruin a good date easily.
One thing that single moms should "relearn" when dating again is that they should look forward to enjoying the experience. Dating should be fun and is meant to be enjoyed. Once you have decided to go out on a date again, try to focus everything towards having a good time. This means not calling the babysitter every half hour to check on the kids. Such worries would send signals to your date that you might not yet be ready for another relationship yet.