Dating can get a little messy, especially if you are a single parent. The chances that your children would have a negative reaction of you seeing someone new are a distinct possibility.
Plus, your ex would also probably be at your heels, either waiting for an explanation as to why you’ve found a new person to fill in his or her place in your life so soon. Either that, or he or she would go mad and act irrationally because he or she couldn’t deal with your moving on for good.
In any case, it is best to confer with your ex with matters regarding your status. Not that it’s his or her business whether you’re single or not, but because it’s your responsibility to let him or her know that it’s really over between the two of you.
Telling your ex that you’re getting serious with another person is a must because the children you had with him or her will also get affected by the news about your new relationship. Here are other practical reasons why you should tell your ex about the new love you have in your life:
- because having someone tag along when you get your children (or when your ex visit the children) is unfair
- so that you can discuss with him or her what boundaries you both should set, if any, when it comes to dating other people
- to maintain a civil relationship between you and your ex, where neither of you would point a finger to the other about hiding things with regards to your personal lives
When you introduce your new love to your ex, make sure to make the meeting brief. There’s no point in rubbing it all in. The purpose for the meeting is for civility and clarity of relationship, not to make your ex jealous. So stick to the basics and get on with it.