As teens grow, they begin to get into relationships with the opposite sex their age. They start on understanding and experiencing first hand how such relationships work. But along the way, they might find themselves in an abusive relationship. Unfortunately, their relative inexperience in this area eventually lead some teens to believe that this might be normal.
It is important for teens to understand what constitutes abuse in a relationship. Many instances have some teens the unfortunate circumstance of being in an abusive relationships. It might be a difficult and traumatic learning process when teens have to go through it.
But there are ways that this can be avoided. Teens should try to learn more on how to determine if they are in an abusive relationship. Here are some of the signs that teens should know about to discover if they are in an abusive relationship.
Is your relationship a result of a whirlwind romance?
Although a relationship that took just a short time to develop does not necessarily mean that it is bad, teens on a whirlwind romance may be at a disadvantage most of the time. Although teens think of it as a romantic experience, an immediate declaration of love does not usually end up as a fairy tale relationship.
Teens in such relationships did not give sufficient time to get to know more about their romantic partners. Teens will see little by little the differences with their partners as the relationship progresses. Only later on do they realize that they were mistaken after all and might begin to feel trapped and have nothing more to do about it.
The early relationships sometimes do not come out the way that teens would want it to. Teens can actually end up in an abusive relationship through this. Teens should learn to take things slowly especially when it comes to building relationships with the opposite sex.
Is jealousy a major issue in your relationship?
Jealousy can do many negative things to a relationship. Adults have difficulties dealing with it, so much so if teens have to experience it in their own relationships. With immaturity on the way, jealousy in teen relationships can lead to abuse. A jealous boyfriend can prevent a girlfriend from going out with friends.
A immature mind of a teenager can hamper the growth of a relationship when extreme jealousy comes into the picture. At first, teens might think that it is all part of loving someone, but when it borders into the extreme, jealousy becomes a problem. A healthy teen relationship is developed with trust and respect for each other. Jealousy can lead to a lot of hurt as well as abuse as the relationship goes on.
Do you feel that you are being controlled?
Immature teens tend to become too possessive in a relationship. They seem to like having someone to control. Some would even think it normal of teen boyfriends always trying to keep track of where they are or who they’re with.
Sometimes teen boyfriends begin telling their teenage girlfriends what they should wear and what they should be doing. Teenage girlfriends would threaten boyfriends just to get them to do what they want. The controlling behavior can come in different aspects of the relationship. If left alone for too long, it can progress into an abusive relationship.
Abuse can damage self-esteem, and until you genuinely believe you deserve better, it can be difficult to break out of the cycle. It’s not always easy to leave a relationship – even one that’s hurtful. "I would find myself going back, hoping and thinking that things would change," Jaslene says.
If you’re in an abusive relationship and you’re finding it hard to end it – or you worry that you may be in danger if you end it – it’s very important to find support. Call the National Teen Dating Abuse Helpline at 1-866-331-9474 or visit http://www.loveisrespect.org/.